Reinforce Love of Learning with...Love.

You have the potential to be our child’s best teacher because you love him. Regardless of your training, background, or natural finesse as a teacher, love is your most powerful asset. Here are some of the benefits of teaching your child with love:

• A child who is guided with love learns to love his guide.
• He also learns to love the process of being guided.
• A child who is led with love is likely to develop into a radiant little being who loves discovering new truths, mastering new skills, embracing new experiences and cresting new horizons.
• He gladly follows his loving parent on their shared journey of discovery.
• A child who feels loved knows that it is okay to be wrong sometimes because even if he is wrong, he will still be loved.
• A child who feels loved is more willing to try, fail, learn, and try again.
• A child whose soul is fortified with the consistent love of parents is on the road to a joyful lifetime of learning.

On the other hand, a child who does not feel sufficiently loved is less likely to develop the confidence necessary to try new things, master new skills, and embrace the experiences life brings.

• A child who does not feel sufficiently loved often feels fearful, uneasy, and insecure.
• He is often afraid of disappointing his eager but overly critical parents. He is so afraid of being wrong—and being belittled, punished, or too harshly corrected for it—that he often opts not to try rather than risk the wrath of his parents.
• Parents who attempt to teach their children without communicating sufficient love to them often see their efforts backfire.
• When parents consistently become upset or impatient while teaching their child, the child often begins to associate hostile feelings with the process of being taught.
• He then develops feelings of resentment not just for his parents, but for the whole process of learning. This can be a devastating blow to the child’s current development and to his future emotional and intellectual life.
  

So, before you commence to teach your child anything, you must commit to love him. You must consciously create a relaxed atmosphere of love and acceptance, and commit to maintaining it.

Many parents, in their eagerness to see their children progress, often push too hard or expect too much from their young children. This usually happens for one of two reasons. First, parents feel that the way their child turns out is a direct reflection on them and are overly anxious to prove their own value as parents through their children’s accomplishments. Second, parents often push too hard or expect too much simply because they don’t know what is developmentally appropriate for their child at a given age.

This blog will guide you through the stages of your child’s development and help you avoid the common pitfalls of withholding love and pushing your child too hard.  I have to say here that I have made mistakes with my children in pushing sometimes too hard or becoming inpatient and as a result have gone backward in some cases with their interests in learning.

I currently have a preschooler at home.  Yesterday I introduced her to the piano.  It was really, really neat!  She loved learning to find and play middle C.  The she loved learning D, E, F, G, and then back down again.  Wow was she excited about learning!  She was loving learning the piano.  Please share what you are doing with you child and how it went.  Also please check back for more...because there will be more!  

Building Your Child's Ability to Communicate: Listening

Your child will be able to express all of his wonderful thoughts if you listen to him. The importance of listening to your child cannot be overstated. Seek to have your child express himself in whatever way he is capable of doing so. Encourage your child to express any apprehensions and aspirations he might have. This will yield valuable information to you as parents as well as provide a useful outlet for the child’s feelings. Perceptive parents will learn how to adjust and adapt teaching strategies from what they learn by listening to their child.


Parents should relate to their child in such a way as to provide a feeling of belonging and worthiness. This requires a great amount of loving and listening by the parents. Look at your child when he speaks to you and respond to what he says. Too often, parents provide what they believe is the “right answer” for their child without allowing the child to think creatively to solve problems or express ideas. If your child has a different idea than you, do not put him down or punish him for thinking differently. Value your child’s opinions even if they are simplistic or flawed.


Children need to be listened to with love and understanding in early childhood. Otherwise, the child will go on without gaining vital practice in thinking critically. Let him explain his ideas and his point of view. Ask questions and help him come to his own conclusions. In this way, you will teach your child to think things through for himself and gain self-esteem and confidence.